Separating property during a divorce can be challenging, but trying to sort out custody and visitation between parents can be emotionally charged and feel like a win-lose situation. When parents cannot work together to determine a parenting schedule, the court must step in. This generally results in a lose-lose situation. Both the parents and the children involved lose because the schedule is out of your hands. The New York State Unified Court System has a number of great resources for parents trying to navigate a divorce.